All over the world, people are breaking up, divorcing, separating after many years, and walking away from solid foundations and such beautiful possibilities all because they hit a hard spot or couldn’t figure out how to communicate to achieve resolution and mutual understanding. Families are being broken up for circumstances that could’ve very well been avoided or mended had the parties involved been more caring, willing, honest, and genuine about their feelings each step of the way. People rave about communication but sometimes we really just don’t know how to do it, and at other times sadly enough, it seems as if some things may not be worth it.
I’m not the only one who just experienced being dumped in the worst way! It’s so much easier to let go for some people than to hold on. The sickening aspect is when your mate doesn’t actually afford you the respect to try and work it out; they just walk away. Or what about if they give you some spill of just how great you are before letting you know that you’re so perfect they’ve found every single reason why they can no longer be in a relationship with you. How about when they’ve got caught in a lie and aren’t able to face you with a reason why so they leave. Sometimes you don’t know whether it’s the actual breakup or the way they broke up with you that has you the most heated. Then, there’s the flip-flopping emotions going from sickness, to sadness, to loneliness, to madness.
I know! It’s messed up. It hurts really deep inside and it’s something you just can’t help but to think about constantly. I’ll tell you something …I didn’t have being dumped in my farthest thoughts. I was speechless. My eyes are watering up as I type. …as I cry… As silly as it may sound I wish that he would come back to me. I wasn’t prepared for breaking up and not being in touch and not being friends at the least, you know. I just loved him so much. I’m not ready to do life without him and never feel his touch.
You ever hear someone speaking of how relieved they are to be broken up from their mate? They’ve come up with each and every reason to justify how so and as an added bonus they’re actually so much better on their own anyways; they’re doing just fine and everything’s great. They couldn’t be better and they’ve even decided it’s the best thing for them. Sometimes, they don’t even have a clue as to why they’re breaking up. Well, this happens to be my case too.
But, on the flip side, I’m deeply in love with my ex. He’s been my sanctuary since the day we met, although we hadn’t known each other forever yet. It only felt as though we did. Hell, I wanted to do life with him. I thought he may have wanted me to be his wife, but now I’m not so sure he did.
Quite frankly, being alone simply isn’t what appeals to me. Although I can understand why some people would have these thoughts. I mean, the only relationship they have is with themselves, so it’s hard to mess up a relationship with yourself. It’s also hard to have much satisfaction from that kind of relationship too, unless you’re living out in the tranquil parts of the land, which is some really good living.
It’s the relationships with others that make the world go around; it’s a thermometer of how we “relate” to others. Friends can be just like us or just our opposite, but it’s how we relate to them that feeds our souls. We can choose to put effort into a relationship or choose to walk away; but each of us needs other people around at some time or another to make us feel a part of a bigger whole. The world is full of other people. We can decide to make friends of some of them, enhance our lives, or we can choose to remain silent in the elevator or not to speak to the person the next table over at the busiest coffee shop. We can stay in our own little world, or we can expand it to include others who might enrich us with their knowledge and personalities.
I can open the door, or can keep it closed. I could’ve chosen to take what my relationship was giving me or I could’ve put more into it to reap the rewards. I could’ve been selfish and thought only about what this relationship meant to me, or how much better it could’ve been if I would have put more effort into making sure my mate was getting as much as he gave. Now, I’m sitting here, still watching his favorite basketball team ball these other guys up, while thinking about him and all the things we could have been.
I came across this invaluable information that has been helping me reevaluate the roles I played in the relationship, how I helped it and hindered it, and is now showing me the supernatural enchantment of making back up! You do get back more than you give to relationships, and relationships will reward you for years, in many, many ways as long as you nurture and nourish them. You should definitely nurture those relationships that you need to keep you happy!
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